On the same day, two similar friends shared two very different articles on Facebook. One talks about how you should embrace your inner workaholic by working more and the other one talks about how you should chill out more and rest more. Though at first these might appear contradictory, it’s interesting that both of these articles are trying to get me to do MORE of something.
This kind of made me think about an insight from the Michael Pollan book In Defense of Food. He made the point that government food guidelines always tell Americans to eat more of stuff rather than less of anything (e.g., instead of “eat less red meat,” it was “choose meats that will reduce your saturated fat intake”). As a result, we are the least healthy country, but one that worries about health the most. Work-life balance might be heading in this direction too: we are told to work MORE, relax MORE, exercise MORE, spend MORE time with family, cook MORE, etc. Even the most common metaphor used to convey work-life balance, the scale, suggests that if we do MORE of one thing, the way to become balanced is to do MORE of another thing. Are we going to become the most stressed country that worries the most about work-life balance? (Are we already?)
I think it might make more sense to think of work-life balance as a diversified portfolio or a balanced meal. Sure, work is good for you, like vegetables! If you’re not doing any at all, you’re probably in trouble. But if all you’re eating is asparagus, that’s probably some sort of a fad diet and it’s not gonna work out either. Bodies can thrive under different diets, but everybody also has to make trade offs — you can’t just eat MORE of everything. In that spirit, I will share the things that I will do less:
- Sitting with my computer in my lap — it’s too comfy and somehow gets me to the weirdest corners of the Internet at the oddest hours of the night, which leads to the next thing…
- Hitting snooze — not actually restful, just delays the inevitable
- Thinking about email — I spend more time NOT answering email (you know, reading it, thinking about it, checking it while out and about) then I do answering it. I’m going to try to the “touch each email once” approach for a bit and see how it goes.
Maybe the old tradition of giving up something for Lent is more on the money than the new tradition of doing more of everything? If you did LESS of something in your life, what would it be?
Nice post. I have promised myself to do LESS eating lunch at my desk. I read somewhere that job satisfaction is inversely proportional to the amount of times you work through lunch. I believe that. I’d rather sit alone in the cafeteria staring out at the pond than dropping crumbs in my keyboard while answering an email that could easily wait for 20 minutes.
I love your post. I have been stressing about not doing enough in my life, even though most people think I already do too much! BTW for Lent I gave up drinking anything but water. It is going well so far, but I really miss my sweet tea at lunch. I am feeling much healthier though.
I’ve been trying to cut down on diet coke (my major vice), but I don’t know if I can totally cut it out. My compromise has been not having it in the house, but it’s okay to have it if I’m out with friends.
For me, less sitting down. Although maybe that’s more standing up?
Actually, I was already thinking about the psychology of “less X versus more Y” recommendations this week already, because of the media coverage of the latest studies on kids, screen time and behaviors. Claire McCarthy wrote the commentary in Pediatrics, and she talks about it in the Boston Globe – how they switched to looking at the content of what kids were watching instead of just pure screen time, because pediatricians were realizing that “children over age 2 should spend less than two hours a day in front of a TV, and under two, no screen time at all” was basically causing all their patients/parents to tune out completely.
Same goes for a lot of nutrition recommendations – I think Pollan’s totally right that we’ve taken it to an extreme (what’s the latest magical superfood I should have at hand at all times? tumeric-covered acai berries? check.), but psychologically, when you pit “eat less of this” against “eat more of these other things,” the latter wins every time. Heck, it’s written write into the IDoF credo: we all love “eat food, not too much, mostly plants,” way more than we would “eat food, not too much, seriouslystopeatingsomuchmeat.”
Ha. “Written write.” Written right, I mean!
I would also spend less time correcting my own typos.
Lol! seriouslystopeatingsomuchmeat is pretty hilarious as a recommendation.
Screen time is an interesting parallel, because it has been attacked from both angles: LESS screen time AND talk to your infants and toddlers MORE. Though, I’ve only seen ads on TV saying “talk to your toddlers more” and none against watching TV… Overall, though, I dislike the term “screen time” because it equates 30 minutes of talking to grandpa on Skype to 30 minutes of watching iCarly. And they’re really not the same thing.
That’s a fair criticism. I think a lot of times I see “screen time” used because they want to include toddlers using iPads & iPhones, and elementary age kids playing videogames, but agreed that video chat is a way different deal. In general, I’m in favor of this “let’s actually differentiate between content” trend.
You know, from my expert, non-kid-or-MD-having perspective.
I spent some time thinking and writing about what I called “cognitive overload” recently, i.e. how we as modern citizens are encouraged to think deeply about everything we do, from sleep patterns, physical activity, food & alcohol intake and balance, personal interests, career(or just job) choices, MAYBE allowing some of our precious time for family and friends(!!), and with increasingly sophisticated “hooks” to draw our attention and create a race of serial procrastinators how do we squeeze all of this in?
Life was simpler when you just did forty years in the same job then died the day after you retired!
I liked your comment regarding email, but honestly, there are always going to be mails that need to be held for action/follow up/reference. Wish you luck with it though.
Thanks for the comment! Just to clarify the email thing, that came out of Randy Pausch’s lecture on time management. Basically, if it’s something you can answer, you do. If it’s something that requires action, you add it to the todo list and no longer think about is as just an email. That’s the idea.
Fair comment, my biggest time waster has always been “juggling” rather than just doing, I have the attention span of a goldfish…..on sedatives!
Hi, also just read this and thought of you!
http://zenhabits.net/e/
Oh, good stuff, thanks!